19. We Are Becoming More Codependent
Codependency is a severe problem. It’s more than relying on other people in difficult times – it’s losing your personality because you rely on someone else to solve all of your problems. Imagine a hunter-gatherer not getting up to go forage because he is waiting for someone else to tell him what to do. That’s what’s happening to people today, thanks to cell phones and social media. They’re refusing to live their lives on their own terms because they are waiting for other people to permit them. People are codependent on social media and will not do anything that they cannot post in exchange for “likes.”
However, on a less extreme level, consider how many times a day, teenagers call their parents to update them on every little thing. Two decades ago, we would find it problematic if anyone called their parents that often. But now, it’s the norm and has even caused the rise of a new form of parenting called “helicopter parenting.” As a result, they have codependent relationships with their parents. However, they are unable to separate from them. The ability to be in constant contact with other people dramatically increases the risk of forming unhealthy codependent relationships. This notion is for friendships, romantic relationships, and more.